I Will Survive


UPDATES: I see that Google Video is not working. I'm not computer savvy as you like to think. To compensate all the trouble I cause, I shall post a new video of Gloria Gaynor's I Will Survive in my next post. Just the video. I'm sorry...

After several tried, I finally gave up using Google Video. To substitute Google Video, I'm using BestAudioCodes. The best application coz it's easy to use. Just copy and paste. Therefore there's no need at all to post Gloria Gaynor's I Will Survive in my next post. If I post it, it will cover AdSense and I can't edit it. Whenever I try to edit, it will just leave me with a 'black hole' instead of the video. I hope you enjoy the song.

Early this morning, I was reading an ezine New Year's Goal Setting by Fabio Marciano the author of The Secret of Wealth. He said, "every year, right about the end of the year we begin to think abouts the things we'd like to change".

The song I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor came to mind. Immediately I looked into my DVD collection of songs and began playing her song over and over again. Believe it or not this song played an important role in my survival. It's my unofficial anthem song. I would hear, play and sings my heart out whenever I had problems and I will survive.

When my first wife the dentist, Dr. Nor Faizah Mohd Nor asked for a divorce when she can't stand my addiction, she said, "I hope you crumble and die!".

I answered back, "I come with a smile and I go with a smile too. I will survive".

So, from that day onward I've adopted Ms. Gloria Gaynor's I Will Survive as my soul partner. Guess what? I did survive. I've stayed clean and sober for nearly four wonderful year and married an heiress six months after our divorced!

I'm feeling happy today and I want to share with you all, this song. Enjoy.

I Will Survive
By Gloria Gaynor

I hope you enjoy that song as much as I do. Below is an article from http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com. I'm a Recovery Blogger and I post recovery article. Enjoy!

p/s please bear in mind, I did not purposely try to demean my ex. She did become my wife and I DID love her. Like I said, "I come with a smile and I go with a smile too. I mean no harm".

by Larry Tyler, M.Ed., LDAC

Most people trying to overcome an addiction soon realize that recovery is not spontaneous. It requires discipline and patience, and therein lies the problem with recovery.

Addiction's lure is its promise of immediate gratification, the quick feel-good. Being addicted means relying on immediate gratification and, as the pattern of addiction continues, our ability to delay gratification erodes. Recovery, on the other hand, asks us to forego the quick feel-good and calls upon us to show a patience we have all but lost during our addiction.

While recovery requires a physical tenacity, to bear the strain of withdrawal, it also requires a mental tenacity. Hopelessness, fear, self-pity, and resentments conspire to wear down our resistance and draw us into relapse. Meditations, the slogans of Alcoholics Anonymous, affirmations, and psychotherapy's "self-talk" technique are designed to bolster our confidence when it falters. But, often we maintain a self-defeating philosophy of life that underlies our thoughts and actions. Like weeds with long roots below the ground, our defeatist thoughts keep reappearing because we have not challenged the philosophy behind the thoughts.

Below, are twelve self-defeating messages commonly believed by people in the throes of addiction. Each message holds a certain level of truth, and all have been carried down through generations. But each is over-generalized. When we adopt these beliefs as truths for all occasions, we destroy the confidence, determination, and willingness to seek support we need to continue the day-to-day internal struggle to achieve sobriety.

  • Ignore things and they will go away.
  • People will hate you if you cause them any discomfort.
  • You can do anything you want as long as it isn't hurting anyone else.
  • People don't really care what happens to you.
  • No matter how hard you try, you're never going to get ahead.
  • If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.
  • If you want people to like you, you've got to keep a smile on your face.
  • You can't teach an old dog new tricks.
  • A promise to people should satisfy them.
  • Life is supposed to be fair.
  • You are not responsible for your behavior if you're sick.
  • What you don't know won't hurt you.

As you identify these or any other self-defeating messages, the challenge you issue to refute the message can include an acknowledgment that the message may be sometimes true, or often feels true to you, but cannot and must not be true for you in your recovery. So, you convert the messages into a more helpful philosophy: "I cannot ignore things and expect them to go away; I cannot expect people to hate me if I cause them discomfort; I cannot do anything I want just because I believe it isn't hurting anyone else...."

Meanwhile, the messages you use to replace these philosophies should emphasize a kindness and concern for yourself and those around you that will attract you back to life and away from addiction. By challenging the messages of defeat and cynicism you can weaken the power of the hidden enemy of your recovery: the thought processes that were cultivated during your addiction.

Larry Tyler, M.Ed., LDAC, lives in Maine, is a licensed substance abuse counselor, trainer, writer, and clinical supervisor. He provides sex offender and domestic abuse groups, and co-founded Resources In Mental Health and Substance Abuse, Inc.

I Will Survive
by Gloria Gaynor

First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me

Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
you think I'd crumble
you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive

It took all the strength I had
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
Now I hold my head up high
and you see me
somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me

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11 Comments thus far...


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Meg Moran said...

I'm glad you did survive..and are happy today. Thank you for posting. I often have trouble getting your comments to open so I can leave a comment. Today I was lucky!

Mary Christine said...

I LOVE that song!

Scott W said...

I love that song! It is a great anthem to adopt, too. Thanks for sharing it.

lash505 said...

that was my song well still is sorta.

Meg Moran said...

Whoopee the comment section opened easy tonight! It is fixed....

Michael said...

Hi thanks for the post on my blog, I am now 2 1/2 years into sobriety and gradually recovering from the hell I was in in the past.
If you read my blog you will probably see that I have still quite a way to go!


Comments comments comments...I see comments.......lol.

Michael said...

I too have added your blog to my list, by calling myself a "Jedi Master" I do not mean I have arrived anywahere, like you say sobriety is a lifetime journey and one that after 2 1/2 years I still feel like I am beggining.
Thanks for your post

Trudging said...

I Love This Song!


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